Can You Feel It?

Recently, Patti Novak was appearing on Oprah.  Patti was dispensing dating/relationship advice, and she said something that I’ve heard before, but never from a woman’s mouth.  This probably isn’t a verbatim quote, but as true to form as I can remember, she said, “In these relationships, it’s important for men to feel like men.  We have to allow and encourage them to feel like men.”

Bravo Patti!

And I would also point out that, even if you’re not dating anyone, you are in a relationship with yourself. With your parents. With God, or the universe, or whatever you think is out there.  A relationship with everything and everyone you know around you.

So in all of these relationships, do you feel like a man?  Do you feel the mantle of manhood being elegantly carried on your shoulders?  Do you feel the joy and strength of masculine energy coursing through your being?  Have you ever had that feeling?  Do you even believe that such a feeling is possible?

You know, as men, we tend to process our life experiences primarily through our heads.  We focus on what we think.  But look at the women in your life.  They focus on their feelings and emotions.  How many times do they allow themselves to feel like women?  They get dressed up pretty, go out on the town, shop, flirt with random guys, talk on their phones all day and night with other women….  They allow themselves to feel like women!  And when one woman isn’t radiating feminine energy, other women surround her and help her feel her energy more.

But when you’re down, how often does one of your fellow men come to help you?  Maybe we should allow ourselves to feel like men sometimes.  Maybe we should allow ourselves to notice when one of our fellow men is radiating a positive masculine energy.

Do you even know what I’m talking about?  Maybe I’m talking about nothing more than feelings, than “vibe”.   Is there something you can do to uplift your emotions about this area of your life?  Sometimes when I need to lift my spirits, and feel my successful and powerful masculine nature, I do something like lift weights, exercise, play poker, ride a motorcycle, solve a puzzle, eat a nice steak, walk my dog, go talk to attractive women…  Do you have something you can do?

The next time you’re having trouble determining whether someone, or yourself, is acting like a man, or being a man…  Don’t think about it so much.  Try feeling it out.

GR